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Fighting Chinese Medicine

Before I became a mom, I thought I’ll feed my baby with chinese medicine like those people around me, especially my hubby’s side of family. It’s usual to see babies or kids taking “Keng Fong San”, “Hor Cho San”, “Qing Hor Yun” etc on regular basis.
After I read those treads from mymomsbest.com, I decided not to follow their footsteps. I really can’t see the difference in the children before and after taking the chinese medicine. Maybe I don’t believe the contains in them, and also the yok choy poh taukeh who acts like he’s the doctor.
Since Justin’s been coughing, and out of medicine now after taking for a few days, my MIL has been suggesting him of taking “Qing Hor Yun”. I’ve strongly rejected her idea, and stay at home most of the time to avoid him getting fed without my approval. I admit I’m very paranoid about this, and it seems like small matter only as lots of babies are taking tradisional pills. But I just don’t feel good about it.
Justin’s slowly recovering, that’s why I’m not bring him to see the paed to get some more medicine. I think his body needs time to recover. But I rather see him recovering slowly than taking some med which I don’t trust.

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Feelings of Being A 1st Time Mum

I was watching Oprah Winfrey’s talk show last night about Brooke Shields’ post partum depression in her book Down Came The Rain with hubby last night, and made me think of my uni friend who has just given birth weeks ago.
We talked over the phone days ago, and at first I only thought of congratulating her on being a new mother, and hopefully she’s doing well on breastfeeding. But I got a shock when I heard from her that she doesn’t want to hold her baby, and doesn’t even feel like she’s a mother now.
She said she didn’t plan to get pregnant soon after marriage, and this baby is an accident. Even though she had read a lot during her pregnancy, and trying hard to accept the fact that she’s going to be a mother, she doesn’t feel like one, and dread about giving birth.
When the nurse brought her newborn baby to her, she didn’t feel like holding or touching her baby. She’s scared when seeing her baby, and didn’t know what to do. I think she’s also afraid of hurting him because majority of first time mums have no experience in handling newborns. But she still refuses to touch her baby even after a few weeks.
Needless to say, she didn’t breastfeed the baby. How to do it without holding the baby? But she express her milk initially, and due to lack of stimulation, her milk production decreased. She doesn’t want to feed her baby with breastmilk anyway.
I’m sad to hear about her baby blues. If I know that she’s expecting, I’ll see her when I got back to Penang, but she kept her pregnancy a secret, which I still can’t understand. She said she felt embarassed of getting pregnant so soon when she told her friends she won’t. But to me, surprise pregnancy should be celebrated with joy, and I’ll definitely be proud of it, even if I need to do lots of mental adjustment.
To make the matter worse, she has not been bathing for weeks as it’s not her full month yet. Both sides of her families are very conservative, and think that she should follow the traditional ways of confinement. Without bathing for so long, I think I can’t think straight either. She felt miserable with her confinement. And that made her resenting her baby even more.
I can’t do much except talking to her. She refused to see anyone until her full month. By then, I hope she’s feeling much better.

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Feeding Medicine

I hate it when Justin got sick, not because he’s more moody or cranky, not due to feeding medicine. Whenever it’s time to take his medicine, he’ll cry and struggle when he sees me with the syringe. Sometimes I really need someone to hold him while feeding, as he’s an older baby now and will push with his hands, and twisting around which makes it harder for me to feed.
Due to the stupid haze, he’s coughing badly and he’s having phlegm. I know that he hates the taste of medicine, but I have to force it down. Sometimes he vomitted immediately after taking it, and I wonder if I should feed him the same dose again… But looking at him crying breaks my heart. So I just wait for the next round and feed again.
Gosh, I’l glad that the haze’s over. At least he can get some fresh air, and will recover soon.

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Sick Again

Justin started to cough today. This is the second time, and I know why it happens. He goes for his morning walk outside the house with my maid or MIL every morning. For the last few days, Ipoh’s getting hazy. And with a construction just metres away, the air is really bad at my neighbourhood. It’s really dusty, the floor has to be mopped at least twice a day if you’re really particular about cleanliness.
Stupid me bringing him out to see my friends just now, and on the way back, my maid told me his body was hot. He’s having fever. Not really high yet, but I still decided to let him take some paracetamol.
He’s not sleeping well due to the coughing. I think have to see his paed again tomorrow.

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Ladies’ Talk

After yoga, a bunch of si lai were gathering at one corner talking about our body after giving birth.

Si Lai #1: See my belly button? Ugly already, got bigger and all wrinkle up, so ugly.
Si Lai #2: See this? I got stretch marks, so “yok sun”, can’t get rid of them with all the creams. Can’t do anything except laser only.
Si Lai #3: See my wrinkle tummy? No elasticity already, have to use more firming cream.
Shoppingmum: See my tummy? Got nothing, but gave my Justin!

Actually my tummy also not perfect or pretty like before, but I feel good about it. At least still have confidence to show to a bunch of Si Lais.

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Goverment Offices

I dread the idea of going to any government offices because it takes me a long time to do my things, and most kakak there are quite garang to “leng soh” like me who knows nothing much about the procedures.
But today, I changed my perceptions. Went to Suruhanjaya Syarikat Malaysia to register my company, and they’re pretty fast comparing to the time I went years ago. Then found out that I can’t proceed because didn’t have Jabatan Pelajaran Perak license with me. Called office to fax to my house and ask my darling hubby to pick up for me while I wait at SSM. Poor hubby, coming with the license but can’t be used because it’s on different names.
I made some calls and found out that I need to go to JPN to get a new education license. Rush there and managed to reach before their lunch hour but the nice gentlemen had left and I only managed to see a “chan kai poh” aka some fussy lady. Hah, tried my best to explain why I need a new license but she didn’t agree, just asked me to change names, submit letters, etc. anything but issuing me the license so she doesn’t have to do more work! She said it’s troublesome!
Ok, shoppingmum also bo lak to talk to her liao. Decided to leave the office and got home for lunch first. Can’t think much on an empty stomach.
Conclusion, some goverment offices improved (like SSM, Perkeso, KWSP, IC registration department etc), as shoppingmum had been there lately and they’re very efficient and more friendly. But JPN still like sh**, really can’t talk to the lady. My principal and regional manager had warned me about her attitute, and today I’ve finally see with my own eyes!
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Hubby’s Objection to Blogging

I told hubby that I have a blog, and he didn’t say much about it until today. He came into the study room and saw me uploading Justin’s photos, and he doesn’t like it. He worries about how unsafe it is placing photos on cyber. I haven’t thought much about uploading photos because lots of bloggers are doing so.
Mmmm…He said better stop uploading Justin’s photos, he doesn’t feel good about it.
What do other mommies think about uploading your kids photos?
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Justin’s 1st Zoo Trip

Mommy’s school children went to Taiping Zoo today, and mommy brought me along. It’s really sunny and hot, but I refused to wear my cap. I hate wearing cap, it spoils my hair.
We went in daddy’s car as mommy wants to fasten me up in a car seat and my cousins were going along too. We reached there earlier than the children as they went to a factory first. So, we had to wait at the entrance for a while.
When the children arrived, they queued up in pairs and were very obedient. They listened to mommy and the teachers. Mommy put me in my sarong sling as I don’t like sitting in a stroller.

We went for the train ride first. During the ride, I saw many animals, but know none of them (mommy thinks he’s just look look see see only lah). I was very excited and kept smiling, bouncing, and giggling. After the ride, we walked for a while at the zoo. This time, mommy left me with daddy and cousins because she had to take care of the children. We walked separate ways, but I was being very good (according to daddy).

At noon, the children were hungry and they left the zoo. They went on the bus again and went picnic at the nearby field. After they left, mommy and daddy brought me to lakeside and we had our picnic there. My city cousins refused to sit on the grass, but I was very eager to play with the grass!

After picnic, everyone’s tired. It’s time to go home. Bye bye Taiping and I’ll come again.

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Playpen

I seldom place Justin in a playpen which is placed downstairs since there’s a mattress on the floor just beside the playpen. But I moved the playpen to my room as I can’t carried Justin along single-handed doing things in my room anymore. He’s really getting heavier and my shoulder is getting sore.
So I tried placing him in the playpen while I went to the washroom just now, and you see, he’s just so happy to be there!

I put his mini-gym and baby piano in there, and he can play for quite long. Even if I carried him out, he still insisted on going in again. Maybe it’s still new to him and he thinks it’s fun playing inside. But I have to make sure that he comes out before he’s bored, if not he may resent being in there next time.
At least for the time being, I can take bath a little longer!
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School Trip

My kindy planned for a trip to a factory and to Taiping Zoo this Saturday. Since we’re going, my friend suggested that her kindy will join in as well. It’s ok with us as each kindy school teachers will have to take care of our own children but we’ll help each other out to overlook the other kids as well.
But when I received the list from the other kindy, I was shock. There’re only 7 children are going, but 8 adults! Of coz, 4 of them are teachers, but the other 4 are a couple (parents), a mother, and a maid (parents sent their maid to go with the child).
I truly understand that as a parent, we’ll always be worried about our children’s safety, especially if they’re going somewhere without us. We’ll be even worried since they’re only aged 3 – 8 years old. However, most schools in oversea will also hold school trips for young children as a way of learning how to be dicipline, responsible, follow instruction, and learn something new outdoor.
The main reasons why I want to have this trip is to expose the children on how mineral water is made at the factory, and of coz, look at REAL animals, not only from books. My children haven’t been to a factory before, and even though they know well what is mineral water, but I’d like them to see how it’s been processed and bottled.
This semester, the children are learning more about animals, but I found out that some of them haven’t been to zoo, and they don’t even know how to differenciate monkeys from orang utan. The children have been very excited about the trip when we announced a month ago, but we also would them to recognise some of the animals first before going. So teachers have been doing hard work of showing them the pictures, clips, and also teaching them about the sounds and youngs of animals. The teachers have also trained my children to queue up in partners and in sequence, so that the children remember their partners and hold their hands at all time. We also arranged the chairs like the train at the zoo, and pretended a train ride, so that the children know where and when to board and come down from the train. They’re also been taught not to feed the animals, touch the cages, stand on train and bus, and what to do if they’re lost. It’s really a training for both children and teachers. Last week, my children walked in pairs to the playground in the neighbourhood, played for a while, and walked a big round back. They’re so obedient as they understand how important it is to be dicipline and follow instructon.
I told the other kindy about this training too, and hopefully it’s been carried. But looking at the list, I know it’s hard to make the children follow our ways. And what really puzzles me is some parents really send a maid to accompany the child to school trip. That’s something I didn’t expect.
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