MIL’s Help
MIL wanted me to wean off Justin ASAP as she thinks that I’m not resting enough as Justin still nurses a few times at night. She offerred to sleep with Justin for the time being. I let her do it for 2 nights last week. Justin was confused why he’s in her room in pyjamas, and refused to go to sleep at first. With lots of pujuk-pujuk, he’s too tired to resent and slept with MIL. But he still woke up twice for night feedings.
Then, I felt kesian with him and decided to let him sleep with me again. He’s not seeing hubby daily already, and if he can’t sleep with mommy, I felt really bad about it. I told MIL that I can manage, even if I’m tired, but I’m still his mother, and it’s a mother’s responsibility to take care of her own baby.
MIL said I’m “san han shu” which means stupid. She said she’s not trying to grab my Justin from me, just wanted to help me to get more sleep. And really no need to feel bad about it.
I don’t know why, I just feel bad of not sleeping with him. I don’t spend much time with him during the day, and if at night also can’t be with him, I really feel like crying. Crazy huh?
I didn’t sleep well those 2 nights too, kept waking up and wondering how Justin’s coping. So, also didn’t rest well.
Tonight, MIL’s sleep with Justin again, she insisted. Hai, maybe just let her help out lah, no point arguing with her. Only for tonight.
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September 14th, 2005 at 9:22 am
My MIL has pested me and hubby to let our kids stay overnight at her house since forever. She lives in Melaka so it’s not like we can take them back anytime. If we send them during the weekend, then it would be the following weekend until I get them back. Arghh…a week without my babies? Cannot!!!
Do what is best for you. If both of you cannot sleep without each other, then better sleep together. Your MIL will grumble for only a while.
I wish you all the best…and sweet dreams.
September 15th, 2005 at 1:09 am
Your MIL is so good, willing to take care of your Justin. If can help to wean him off then good for you oso. Can get more rest!
September 15th, 2005 at 7:55 am
Along, one week is impossible for me too, that’s why I didn’t leave my Justin with my mum in Penang, even if she’s suggested to take care of him if I need so. Can’t tahan not seeing him for too long, the longest separation was 4 days, when I was having workshop, and it’s quite torturing for me.
Annie, my MIL is a great lady. She said I’m the one who’s unwilling to wean off, which is true because I like the bonding when bf Justin. But like most people, they’ll suggest weaning off as they worry about the baby inside. I’ll just nurse Justin if he still wants, even there’s no more milk.
September 16th, 2005 at 1:14 am
hubby not around, can mil sleep in your room too? so 2 of u can take care of Justin. Both parties happy.
September 16th, 2005 at 1:55 am
Wow.. your mil is actually quite helpful. Btw, didn’t know Justin so young and you are already pregnant with 2nd one.
I read about tendum feeding. Actually no need to wean Justin. Can continue nursing him until the 2nd baby comes by.
September 19th, 2005 at 12:26 am
hope u get some good rest. My MIL also likes Faythe to sleep over, although she sees her everyday..weird!! And I’m totally against it, because I miss my baby..but once a while if we go midnite movies, then we will leave with MIL..Faythe usually sleeps thru the nite, so she tells me she’s OK with that.