One Step Nearer to SAHM

I’ve been thinking of being a full time stay-at-home-mum for some time, especially after my second pregnancy. I’ve been worrying about how to cope with a toddler and a baby, and my work. The best solution for the time being is cutting down my time spent at work, even if I’m only working for less than 6 hours a day.

I have a few friends in the same line as me. Most of them go to work at 7am as most kindergardens operate very early, finish in the afternoon or evening, and then rush to learning / tuition centre and work until 10pm. My friend said she saw the school children more often that her own. Once her daughter called when we’re having meeting in KL, asking her if she could be back on that night. She said she couldn’t make it as there’s another meeting the next day, but she’ll rush back to Seremban as soon as possible after the meeting. Her 6-year-old girl replied her in anger, saying that if she couldn’t come back that night, don’t bother to come back, she doesn’t need her mother then. My friend’s heart was broken into pieces hearing it. She’s busier than me, and can only see her children on Sunday. Poor mommy and poor kids.

There’re so many mothers who complaint to me that they just missed out the days when their children are growing up. I truly understand their situation. It’s very competitive in this field, and one should really work hard if she wants to have her investment capital returns fast. That’s why they tends to leave their children at home while they’re working like hell outside.

After some discussion with hubby and my partners, we all agreed to stop operating one of our kindergardens by the end of the year. It’s the one I am managing, and I really feel incapable of running it now. So most of the money invested is going down the drain as it has only been operated for a year and hasn’t break even yet. Hubby said it’s ok, and he doesn’t mind about the money. He also agrees I should slow things down, relax myself and enjoy my pregnancy again.

So, I feel so relief now that most of the documents and procedures are done. Just counting down the number of days to go.

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10 Responses
  1. Egghead says:

    good for you to take the brave decision!
    too bad my wife still cannot afford to do so because her hubby is not able to find enuf money to support the household :(

  2. Sue says:

    wow… own biz oso have to give up… but i know, own biz worse than working for other people coz we tend to “fong mm tai”..

    good for you tho, i have yet to make that decision to quit work and be FTSAHM

  3. Annie says:

    aiyo… you going to stop one while we are going to start one… haiya!!

  4. Samm says:

    I enjoyed NOT working for a long time already. You’re sure gonna love it, especially with pregnancy.

  5. Lazymama says:

    *Envy envy* Good and wise decision you have made! :)

  6. shoppingmum says:

    Egghead, I know you’re doing the best for your family. It’s better to have double income also, at least can have better standard of living.

    Sue, that’s why it took me some time to “convert” to FTSAHM. Now I only want to rest, rest, and rest!

    Annie, what’s your new biz??? Take good care of yourself, it’s always the hardest during the first few months. Once everything has stabilized, you can enjoy being a biz-mum! Good for you.

    Samm, wah, you’re living the life I yearn for soooo long. *Jealous* Soon, I’ll join your club! :)

    Jefferene, I think most mums will make the same decision as me if we can let go our career. But of coz, less biz means less income, shoppingmum can only window shopping loh!

  7. jazzmint says:

    congrats on moving fwd to be SAHM..salute salute..I’m sure after they grow up you can start the kindergarten again :) .

  8. Zara's Mama says:

    a very good and brave decision you have made.

    You can go back to work again when they are old enough to enter nursery. Then they can just go to the kindergarden that you operate.

    I would like to slow down as well, but financially I think we still have lots of commitment, so can’t quit yet. Aigh.

    Good luck to you.

  9. maria aka twinsmom says:

    whao…this is a big decission you have made.
    but you will never regret it, more mother care, the kid feel more secure.

  10. domesticgoddess says:

    you’re so lucky! *envious*