Why Not Working?
Lately, my current position of stay-at-home-mom has become one of the main topics of discussion.
Situation 1
SIL: Don’t you want to go back to work after delivery?
Shoppingmum: I’m going to centre almost everyday what…
SIL: I don’t mean just going back to centre, you know lah, you employed so many teachers and not teaching yourself, you won’t be earning that much this year. Last time when you work as engineer, you can earn a few thousands a month. Why not continue?
Shoppingmum: Huh? But I worked long hours last time leh, can only get home the earliest by 7pm, sometimes work until 9pm. How about my kids?
SIL: “Lei sho ke” (you stupid), Mama can help taking care of them mah… Studied so much with a degree but don’t wanna work, siao ah?
Situation 2
My mum: You really don’t want to work already ya? Stop for so many years liao…
Shoppingmum: DH said no need to work, just take care of the kids.
Mum: You won’t have much money to save leh…And 2 persons working will also gain more money, life is better then.
Shoppingmum: I know, but I don’t want to leave my kids at home doing nothing but watching TV only. I know MIL can’t cope with so many kids.
Mum: Sigh, if I know you’re not working after having kids, better don’t send you to uni lah…
Shoppingmum: ……:)
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January 12th, 2006 at 9:43 pm
there is no degree that can match the knowledge of fully taking care of your children… and I mean taking care with love!
getting a degree doesn’t mean have to work one… you are taukeh wat… so why need to work? LOL!
January 12th, 2006 at 9:45 pm
Earning more money doesn’t mean a lot because money can’t buy you back the time you missed out spending with the kids while growing up. As we all know, kids grow up very fast, one moment they are already crawling and then walking, talking. I personally wouldn’t want to miss all those moments so I totally understand your decision to be a part-time stay at home mom.
I am working from home most of the time. Luckily, being a real estate agent, it will not be difficult as most of my work will be thru the internet. Just need to get into the office when I have a transaction going on. =)
January 12th, 2006 at 11:58 pm
wahh…no work=no degree…hmm…no mah tell them later lor..later later…till they also forget hehehe
January 13th, 2006 at 12:22 am
Emm…money can earn anytime you like summore you are operating you own kindergarden. But kids will grow, if miss out the time, u cant chase back..
January 13th, 2006 at 10:01 am
Lots of SAHM are degree holders nowadays ler.. tell your mum that.
With your knowledge, education background, better to work for the kids at home, than go out right?
I don’t know if I can be SAHM or not though, first thing financially probably can’t cope, the other thing is I’m not sure if I can handle Zara alone for 24hrs a day (if I don’t work, sure will have no maid, which means I stay at home alone with her right)?
So a good choice you’d made!
January 13th, 2006 at 10:30 am
jaw-dropping conversation you had out there. wow. i hope my mum won’t say that to me should I decide to be a SAHM in the future.
anyway, i support your choice. i seriously believe that if you choose to work, you’ll be regret that you do not get to observe as much about your kids’ growth. you might miss their great smiles, their great actions, their naive words, etc. i wanna be there to participate. i don’t wanna be informed like i am an outsider. that is, of course, if financial status permits.
if your hubby can support that, why not?
to have an opportunity to study in uni is a lifetime experience to observe the world, and gain the knowledge. you can apply the knowledge through many aspects, not necessary only your workplace.
good luck in making up your mind!
January 15th, 2006 at 8:51 pm
O_o”"”
put a side all this negative comment lor.
being a SAHM sure will listen a lot of this kind of comment, I had a lot of it, but later I know there is no perfect answer for them, so I always goyang my kaki and say: “I am a lazy person, I like to be siu-nai-nai, so I saty at home.”
I never regret, you read my blog you know :).
January 16th, 2006 at 12:32 am
Egghead, me a poor taukeh lah, just small business. But still managed to pay some of my bills loh! LOL!
Whoisbaby, I admire those mums who can work at home, I’ve been thinking about this but can’t find anything much that I can do.
Jazzmint, good idea, tell them later, later and later….
Rachel, well, I’m the lazy type, just operating but not teaching as it’s really time consuming. You’re right, kids grow up really fast, it’s a lost to me if I’m not there for them.
Zara’s mama, being a SAHM for 24 hours really tough, it’s like having an endless job list without specific datelines. Sometimes I’m amazed that I can do it also because last time I’d prefer to work and have my own career. Justin really changes me, on the good side of coz.
Greenapple, financial burden will always be there, but I really spend less after I stopped working. Yes, I feel weird also if someone else has to tell me about my kids milestone, it’s like I’m out of their lifes.
Maria, SAHM is sui lai lai meh? Ha ha! Last time also I think the two terms are the same, but now…But I still prefer not to work!
January 17th, 2006 at 7:33 pm
You can always go back to work later on when the kids are older but those precious moments when they’re growing up can never be brought back. I wish I had the option of becoming a SAHM but frankly speaking I just love working too much. For me the formula works, go to work..come back on time, spend every second with my girls until they go to bed. My love for them does not increase/decrease because of this. Your happiness should not ether, for becoming a SAHM.
Take care!!
January 18th, 2006 at 2:07 am
aiyo, staying at home does not mean that you will waste your degree ma. to me, as long as i can stay at home with LitChampion i am happy. in fact, my mom also agreed if i can stay at home full time with the kid, he will be more discipline (my mom don’t know how to discipline cos terlalu sayang). SOHO la, me in the midst of planning…. (my blog is temporary out liow cos i tried to do something funny to it. will be back soon)