I Love You
When hubby and I were dating 7 years ago, we used to say I Love You to each other whenever we hanged up the phone, saying goodbye, before bedtime or on special occasions. But both of us have not been using these 3 magic words after my boy came along.
I think we are probably so tied up with things and our passion for each other has grown into a sense of belonging as a family, and mussy words like that have also disappeared as time flies. I wonder if any average M’sian couple use these words as often as ang mo gao or not? Those westerners are really more expressive than Asians, as we’re more conservative and tend to keep our feelings to ourselves.
I’ve been singing this I Love You song from Barney everyday as Justin likes to listen to it over and over again. I’ve been teaching him how to say I Love You to me and hubby, but he’s not saying it unless I remind him every now and then. I’d like him to be more expressive like ang mo, and not shy in expressing his feelings. He likes to hug and kiss us but he doesn’t say the magic words. Maybe hubby and I didn’t set a good role model of saying those words between ourselves in front of him.
By the way, saying too much of the words is also too geli for us as we live in an extended family. Even if my boy will say it now, I doubt he’ll do it after a few years. His cousins might be laughing at him! Then, when he’s brave enough to say it again will be the time when he’s having his puppy love! LOL!
So, I better say I Love You to my hubby tonight when he gets back from KL. See if he has goosebumps or not!
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July 26th, 2006 at 10:16 pm
saying it too often will make those words less meaningful liao
July 26th, 2006 at 10:44 pm
The Big Kid and & hardly say that to each other, only via SMS. We are a bit old fashionlah. However, we teach our kids to be more open with affection. They will say I Love U Mommy or Daddy when they say their “good nites” every time.
July 26th, 2006 at 10:52 pm
You say I Love You to your hubby tonight.. maybe the end result is to conceive no. 3.. *giggling*
July 26th, 2006 at 11:06 pm
LOL at zara’s mama comment!
my hubby still will say it sometimes but me seldom…hahaha
July 26th, 2006 at 11:12 pm
I guess our kids will turn out more expressive then us eh? My girl says it all the time to us, me especially and less for daddy. Hehehe.
July 26th, 2006 at 11:57 pm
Quite contrary to you, hubby and I say I love U to each other more now than during the courtship. We also show open affection. It is puzzling how/why my eldest son, RE would feel shy when he sees us hugging. Seconds later, he will run to us and we have a group hug.
July 27th, 2006 at 8:32 pm
Jo likes to say “Jojo喜欢Papa”, but totally not say for me. Sigh!
July 27th, 2006 at 11:18 pm
so how, did a 7 year hubi get goosebump or not? we are still saying it and it makes him a happy man. LOL although what makes him a happier man is Ashley babbling “papapapapa…”
July 28th, 2006 at 9:56 am
Egghead, really meh? You sounds like a “tradisional” man, the type where actions speak louder than words right?
Immomsdaughter, at least you still say it in SMS, that should be regular too.
Zara’s mama, ok, here’s what happened…
Me: Love you…
Hubby: Huh? Why?
Me: So long didn’t say I love you already, so feel like saying it now.
Hubby: Hai ya, love you too… *Kiss, kiss*
The end, no action for no 3. Ha!
Jesslyn, your hubby still very romantic, don’t you feel lucky to have a romantic hubby?
So, better start replying him loh…:P
MG, I guess so. I think Chinese are really shy in expressing their feelings. Frankly, I’ve never said I love you to my parents before, and I doubt I have the courage to say it. I’ll only show them by treating them well. Gee…really hope that my kids will still hug me when they grow up.
WMD, wah, I seldom hear couples like you! I better start learning from you, to keep the passion burning!
Hui Sia, how come? Did you tell him you’d like to hear that more often too? Well, can ask papa’s help to tell Jo to say the same to you, see if it works.
Allthingspurple, actually, he didn’t get goosebump, but I blushed a bit when I was saying it. Felt so unfamiliar saying the words now…
July 28th, 2006 at 10:53 am
Sorry to ask you something out of the topic..
I am creating a blog for my DS. May I know how do I add in a ticker and the slideshow at the header of the page? I know I have to add the url add in the template but I do not know how to put the margin in? Can provide me a sample?
You may email me at jane_syuen@yahoo.com. Thanks a lot!
July 28th, 2006 at 9:10 pm
yeah, not at all used to saying that to parents (due to upbringing), but not a problem at all saying that to wife
July 29th, 2006 at 2:13 am
My hubby sometime still say this words to me but i think i just say once in my life time to him..hehe. That time after we argue so i say this magic words it work..haha.
My FIL who teach my kids to say this magic words when ever they get thier food from my FIL. He will ask them say thank you yeh yeh and i love you yeh yeh!! So now on my gals like to say when they get anything from us
July 29th, 2006 at 5:24 am
haha… me and hubby said it till now.. but then he prefers to say it only at home! cheh… but oscar says it to me all the time, very sweet and ‘lam’….
July 30th, 2006 at 8:50 pm
I think Chinese Men are more conservative. Maybe due to parents influence? U know, chinese ppl last time dun even know what is “love” and they can have many kids..
So no need to tell “Ngo Oi Lei” or “Wo Ai Ni” la!
But that’s not my style at all. I want to have a very expressive family who knows how to express their feelings …cos we never know what will happen tomorrow..
August 5th, 2006 at 12:58 pm
I always say I love you to him but still don’t get respond. And when I ask him Do you love me?..he gives me this reluctant look and it’s like getting gold out of his mouth! Then I realised he is not the expressive type and I married the wrong man! LOL. How do you train a man to say `I love you’ and mean it from his heart? You tell me. A lovely blog! Great job!