Pressured To Go Back To Training
I was “entertaining” a bunch of staffs from my headquater just now as they’re having a company trip from KL to Penang, and stopped by Ipoh for lunch. They were having lunch just somewhere near my centre.
I knew they’re coming this morning, but didn’t expect to meet them. But my “si fu” in my field called me up personally and asked me to have lunch with them. It’s hard to turn him down as I’d not be showing my hospitality, so I went to meet them.
As usual, he kept “pressuring” me to get back to master trainer program which I stopped a year ago due to my complicated pregnancy. This commitment required me to travel a lot, stand for long hours giving training, and do lots of preparation for a particular training. It’s a voluntary job without extra paid, and trainers will be paid according to number of participants for the training. It’s not a big money though, and more about “helping” the headquarter to train all teachers nationwide.
I didn’t mind joining the program a few years ago as I was not tied up with my kids. It’s not because of the money, but lots of effort and time needed to be put on this program, and I doubt I’m capable of doing so. Right now, I really want to spend more time and effort on Justin and Isabelle, but not voluntary stuffs like this. However, I was “indirectly blamed” for the inadequate of master trainers in my state because I pulled myself out. My si fu kept “brainwashing” me to return to the program as he said I was really needed.
Even if I kept explaining that I’d like to focus on my kids only for the time being, my decision was seen as a selfish act. *Sigh*
It seems hard to juggle a job and kids at the same time, or is it me who’s facing this problem, trying to put my kids as top priority and sacrifice a job to be a better mom?
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August 4th, 2006 at 4:42 am
You need to prioritise, which is more important.
I told my boss up front that I prefer to concentrate on my young family now, so I’m not looking for any career advancement at this point in time.
So if your priority is to spend time with the kids, stick to it, don’t care what you si-fu say. In the end, it’s your family and not his.
August 4th, 2006 at 9:05 am
Zara’s mama, your comment really brightened up my spirit. I’m probably one of those moms who give myself lots of pressure to be a great mom, and thus I’ll have to put aside other aspects in my life for a while. I’m truely greatful that you understand what I’m going thru, and thanks for the encouragement.
August 6th, 2006 at 3:18 am
I would say, screw the VOLUNTARY job and focus on the kids. Need to be a little bit selfish sometimes, it does no harm.
August 6th, 2006 at 10:56 pm
Jason, thanks for supporting my selfish decision. Oh boy, I feel so much better!!!
August 7th, 2006 at 12:03 am
It is definitely not a selfish decision…in fact a selfless act. Well unlike me, I can only be a sane mum if I work. otherwise, I will drive everyone insane and end up insane too :0
August 7th, 2006 at 9:52 pm
To be honest, I have one more subject to go before competing my degree but have stop my study due to my kids and also coupled with laziness. Before my children came along, I was a very career minded woman but now my faimly comes first. I’m happy with my choice. Bottom line, as long as you are happy & comfortable, you’ve made the right decision.
August 8th, 2006 at 8:51 pm
can’t please everyone; just follow your heart!