Kids Fight

When I was blogging this morning, Justin was playing with Xin Yi cheh cheh and Li Wei koh koh while the rest of the family members were having breakfasat at the dining room nearby. Suddenly, I heard Li Wei’s complaining to SIL that Justin pulled his hair, and Xin Yi came to tell me that since koh koh’s trying to grab the ball from Justin, Justin hit him back.

Justin doesn’t like to play with koh koh, and I don’t know why. I’ve always thought that boys like to play with boys, but I was wrong. He and Li Wei are not close at all.

I thought it’s only a small matter as I’ve always told Justin not to hit anyone, and he has to apologise if he did anything wrong. Then, Justin dropped his bowl of cereal in my study room and I told him I’d clean it up. SIL was walking past and said “Hai ya, it’s second time already, beat him lah!”

So, I replied “Why beat him? He didn’t do anything wrong (I mean kids are like that mah), why so violent?” Then SIL said “Huh? Beat him violent meh? He hit my son more violent lah!” Then she just walked off while saying “Always hit my son one….bla…bla….”

That really got me angry. If want to talk about the matter, talk nicely in front of me, why walked away?
So, I said, “I already told Li Wei not to play with Justin, you know that he’s still young and he doesn’t like Li Wei to touch his things.”

MIL joined in “How to stop kids from playing with each other?”
“Justin learnt this from Li Wei too…”
“Li Wei where got beat Justin?”
“When he’s younger, Li Wei used to kacau him. And he hits Xin Yi too, surely if Justin sees it, he’ll learn”
“Where got? Where got?…bla…bla…”
“Then, if they fight again, don’t blame me!” My blood was boiling already!

Really angry about this. I talked to Justin later that he shouldn’t have hit koh koh, and if he doesn’t like to play with him, just say it out. I admit that Justin didn’t behave well, and despite of me telling him not to hit anyone over and over again, he still forgets. Probably he’s still very young and yet to know how to control his anger.

Yikes, then I should be angry with myself! Why I got into this “fight” in the first place??? I don’t lose my cool easily, don’t know why I’m so temperament just now.

I’m monitoring Justin’s diet again, avoid him from taking sweets and perservative food to see if it helps in his behaviour. I think I have to avoid this range of food too, to control myself!