Trust and Faith
I trust my kids a lot, but I also try my best to gather as much information from others as possible, when it comes to those complains about them. So far, there are not a lot, and even if they are active and naughty, they have never hurt anyone.
But yesterday, I heard something that made my heart skipped a beat. The workers told SIL that an old lady came to the office on Wednesday evening, claiming that my kids threw 2 pebbles, about the size of a ping pong ball, down from 4th floor, and hurt a kid. I tell you, my head was spinning when I heard the word “hurt”. SIL said it’s nothing serious, but just like a bump. But I feel that since it’s an injury and my kids should go and apologize to the parents.
So, when they were back from school yesterday, I asked them if they threw the stones out from the balcony, they said no. But then, after more questioning, Justin said mei mei did fall and the stones went off the roof. There is a roof top at the balcony, so the pebbles might roll off. But ah poh said she saw my kids throwing stones, and I took a peep at the balcony, it’s quite hard to see my kids as the roofs are blocking the view, and so are the blinds.
Then, I asked my maid again, who’s staying near this ah poh. She said, no one really get hurt, just that the pebbles dropped from the top. See? Which version should I listen to? But no matter what, I did scold and lecture my kids and THREATEN to send them to the police if they ever hurt anyone. No play play. Getting someone injured is no joke. Maybe I had gone overboard with my lecturing, when my kids were eating their bentos. After that, they dared not step their feet at the balcony. LOL!
Hubby seemed to have a lot of trust and faith in our kids, he didn’t want to go to the back lane and find out more about this. So, I have to rest this issue aside, but be the nagging old mother hen who keeps repeating that it’s EXTREMELY dangerous to throw anything from the balcony, even if it’s just some travel towels!!!
I hope that both of them keep this in mind.
i think ahpoh’s eyes abit blur edi. The stone fell and and she tot someone threw. Sometimes gotto trust our kids also. Not like my dad forever trust strangers and not us. very hurt wan..
Maybe ah poh saw the stone fall down and saw the kids up the balcony. She may assume that the kids throw.
Best thing is to take away all the pebbles stone from the balcony.
somehow, mummy always become the bad person, and daddy wants to be the cool & nice one huh? *hehe*
You are doing the right thing. Its good to ensure that are children knows what their boundaries are. Some times children being children are foolish and playful but when we correct them at the right time, they will know their limits and will grow up to be responsible adults.
Good job!
Yes, it is hard to find the middle ground between having faith in your kids and believing what others say. But the truth probably lies in the middle – the kids may be right and the others may be right. The trick is to find out how ‘right’ everyone is!